Guest blog by MLMH team member Katrina
I want to start by saying we’re NOT here to tell you what you should be doing , we’re here to check in with our mom tribe and make sure you’re okay (or as close to okay as you can be). Being a mom is hard gig on a “normal” day so wanted to share tips from our MLMH community on how you can take care of yourself.
MLMH community member Kristy suggested saying “YES” more. Personally, I love this, and have implemented in my home. Instead of stressing myself out when my toddler asks to paint at 6:45 am, I say “sure.” When my teen grabs a bag of chips at 9:00 a.m. instead of cereal I just roll with it. Now, I don’t think we or Kristy are suggesting you let the inmates take over the jail, but consider saying “go for it” if it will allow you few minutes of peace.
Usually taking a shower is another task on a daily list. I try to get in and out as quickly as possible. MLMH community member, Kate reminded us that we should enjoy that shower. We should lock the door, let the shower run and take in the peace and quiet. If you can steal a few extra minutes throw on that face mask that you’ve had in your drawer for the last 6 months.
Crying. This suggestion may seem counter-productive. We’re supposed to look at the positive, and keep up beat for our family, but sometimes we all need a release, and it can feel so good. MLMH member, Tui shared how she had a good cry and it felt “amazing.” I could relate. I was recently sick for over 3 weeks. I had a really bad cold, and once I started feeling better I got hit with an ear infection. I was lucky enough to be able to work from home, but that meant I was still working, taking care of my kids, and making dinner every night. On a drive to run an errand I just started bawling my eyes out. My ear really hurt, I was tired of being sick, and I needed to host a pity party for myself. After I cried, I wiped my face, felt good after the release and went back to getting ‘ish done. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, and want to cry, do it. Hide in the car, in the shower, wherever you can and take a moment.
Lots of mamas suggested exercising. You can take a walk, do some yoga, or find a free video on Facebook or Youtube for some ideas. Puzzles and board games came up a lot too. This is a great way to keep everyone occupied and have some fun, and it’s also a great way to keep everyone occupied while you sneak away!
More than anything we hope you’re taking care of you, mama. Be easy on yourself. Don’t compare yourself to others, and do your best to sneak away for a few minutes when you can. Don’t forget about our great MLMH community FB group. We allow positive vibes only, and are here if you need us.